This post is a bit late as I have been journeying from Memphis back to NYC. I survived the plane ride and have officially settled back into my apartment. Large transitions like this are not typically easy, both logistically and emotionally, so I figured this a good time to write post about life transitions.
Nearly everybody has encountered a major life transition at some point or another. It doesn’t necessarily have to involve change in location either. Start a new job? Enroll in a new school? Congratulations- you’ve survived a transition. A testament to your resilience.
The world is an ever shifting landscape and so, naturally, people change things up in order to function. People adapt. If they don’t, well, just ask Blockbuster how they’re doing these days. Even though we transition often, it doesn’t mean that the process isn’t without hurdles to be jumped.
Every time I transition between NYC and Memphis I find myself a bit rattled. Routine changes, spaces are different, the people I interact with are different. Adaptability is key to survival. In this post, I want to delve into a few tactics I have for tackling change and for maintaining your goals while the world around you spins for a minute.
Defining Your Constants
When I stepped back into my apartment yesterday, my room was in disarray. The decorations that previously lit up my walls had made themselves a new home on the floor. The AC had been fixed in my absence and as such, the repairmen took a few artistic liberties in regards to the decor. First order of business? Get my room back in shape. Why?
Because my room is a constant. Transitional periods carry with them a lot of change and it can be easy to get swept away in the chaos. This is when constants become especially important. My room, to me, is one of a few constant factors that help me maintain a degree of stability during periods of change. It is my space- I can always take a step inside my room and breath for a minute (especially since they fixed the AC).
Constants don’t have to be physical, either. In fact, many constants we hold live in a more cerebral space. These come in the forms of our ideals. A few primo examples: religion, meditation, a creative outlet, calls to family, missions or goals. Personally, I find vision boards to be especially helpful. They keep you on track during times of change. What do you want? How will you achieve it? I was never too hip on vision boards until my mom asked me to make one (thanks Hollie, you’re the bomb). They work wonders. You can take a look at a vision board or two here.
Keep Up The Pace
When I first got back to the city, I was incredibly tempted to bum out for a few days. Blame it on jet-lag, homesickness, the systemic shock to my body brought on by a college diet, whatever. The mentality makes sense. Change is tiring and sometimes, when everything else is moving, you just want to sit still. That might work for some people. For me, that lull is a sleepy descent into chaos.
In the midst of change, I feel it is important to root yourself in something so you don’t lose sight of any goals you might have previously been pursuing. When in a new space or partaking in new activities- old habits and projects can easily fall by the wayside, collecting dust in the rhetoric of just let me finish this movie or I’ve got bigger things on my plate. The best way to combat this is to keep moving.
Keeping up the pace doesn’t have to be a huge ordeal. I’m maintaining the jog by writing this post that you’re reading. Others can read a book. Clean their room. Anything to stave off the sluggishness of transition. If you can go to bed even a millimetre closer to something you’re aspiring toward, you’re leaps and bounds better off than if you hadn’t.
Give Yourself A Minute
Take some time to slow down. This may seem like I’m contradicting myself but let me explain. There is a lot of value in giving yourself a moment to take stock. While the world around you his twisting and turning, consciously partaking in a moment of stillness is good. I don’t necessarily mean empty stillness. Scrolling through IG for hours doesn’t constitute ‘still’.
Reflect. Reflect on the change. What is changing? Why? How do you fit into it? Taking mental stock of the situation is an incredibly rewarding practice. Be sure to listen to yourself, lest you get swept away. Remember what it is all about- you’ll be tackling change like a champion.
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